The desk will wait

I spent hours at work today. Yes, on a Saturday.

I planned to move methodically through my “to do” list, tackling items as they appeared while cleaning out cabinets filled with dated electronic supplies to make room for instructional technology gadgets and hardware to support our current classroom needs.

Within moments of sitting down at my new cluttered desk, the phone beeped. Next door, several teacher friends had requested help as they dug deeply into their National Board artifacts.

For the next few hours, I engaged in rich conversations about innovative instructional practices, professional growth opportunities, differentiated learning experiences, and the impact of professional learning communities on their students.

I problem-solved. I offered advice. I collaborated. I learned. I laughed.

I did not clean my office.

But, I filled my bucket.

The desk will wait.

 

You are competing against yourself

After 8 weeks of intense physical therapy that included limited mobility at practices, miles of tape and adhesive, and absolutely no competitive events, my oldest daughter returned to the pool tonight. She swam over 1000m in her events, returning to her favorite events: 200m freestyle and 400m freestyle as well as her two relay events.

Initially, she was not pleased with her performance for a variety of reasons.

We stepped back.

While it was true that she did not finish first in the events, that is not the goal of every event. You cannot control the speed of the swimmer in the lane beside you.

You can, however, control you.

In reflection, she realized that – despite two months away from competition – she walked away with two personal bests, in the 200m and the 400m.  She had a solid swim – dropping considerable time on both events and placing herself in consideration for Regionals in both of her individual events.

Sometimes, our biggest competitor is the person in the mirror.

And, at the end of the day, personal growth is the most important indicator for future success.

Lessons from the Copy Machine: Part 2

On Thursday morning, I was greeted with a very angry photocopy machine.

With each copy, I was faced with a 6 paper jam that backed up throughout the entire machine. After finding the culprit – and very small, crumpled piece of paper – I tried again. Repeat. Repeat again. Repeat again.

On the 6th attempt, I found it. The most minute piece of crumpled paper hidden in the depths of the machine behind multiple doors, drawers, and levers. Alone, it was innocent – just a discarded piece of paper. But, in the corner of this machine, it caused a huge mess that took 30 minutes to solve.

That little piece of paper derailed everything.

The copy machine could simply not function with it there.

However, once identified, found, and removed, it was smooth sailing.

What are the little crumpled pieces of paper that are a barrier to you being your best self? How can you identify, find, and remove them?

Every day, I find that we are more and more like the photocopy machine.

Making Space for Growth

Today, I spent a couple of hours tackling a cabinet in my new office. It was a simple task – one that allowed me to step away effortlessly to help, brainstorm, chat, collaborate, and problem solve .. opportunities that presented themselves seamlessly and often.

As I filled the garbage can and sorted the few items that survived the purge, I stared at a practically empty cabinet.

Opening the doors to an empty cabinet.

A new opportunity with unwritten chapters.

Blank pages waiting for a story.

 

Lessons from the Copy Machine: Part 1

On Wednesday afternoon, the photocopy machine – the beloved, color, faculty-favorite in the Media Center – jammed, coughed, and burned our fingers until the only option was to turn it off and wait for it to cool off.

I started thinking: Aren’t we a bit like photocopy machines?

Sometimes, we find ourselves overworked and overextended. We aim to serve others, but find ourselves running out of paper, toner, or staples while trying to get all of the jobs complete in a timely manner. We slow down, jam, or quit all together. We someone tries to fix us, we burn them or hide the jammed piece of paper behind layers of equipment. In frustration, we stop, our face blinking in anger, until someone finally pulls the plug.

We unplug. We cool down. We reset. We realign our compass.

When we power up, one of two things happen. Either we return, ready to go – all we needed was a break to cool down. Or, our screen clearly indicates where the equipment error is, allowing us to focus, correct, and move forward.

Unplugging allows us to return refreshed, with clarity.

We have a lot in common with copy machines.

New Day. Baby Steps.

Today was a huge day for me. For the first time in my 23 year educational career, I found myself without a traditional classroom. Everything that I know: Taking attendance, scheduling within a bell-driven class, linking to standards, assessing, collecting, distributing, lesson plans, everything was different. Everything.

But, it was amazing. I was challenged, stretched, and incredibly busy. I collaborated with teachers to trouble shoot problems, shadowed other technology engineers to learn skills, sat beside teammates to learn how to do the various parts of the job more fluidly, and brainstormed with teachers in my building about ways to make their classrooms better (more engaging, more efficient, more innovative).

Today, I did a little bit of everything. Some well. Some not so well.

Going into my first day, I made a goal to embrace the day. By embrace, I mean that I intended to embrace every single minute. Embrace a productive struggle. Admit when I do not know the answer. Listen intentionally. Smile often. Express gratitude. Give grace. Especially to myself.

Growth is measured by the itty bitty steps that we take every single day.

I will look back to find that those little steps accumulate to great distance.

Value the growth.

Value the journey.

Inspired by Suzie Henderson’s blog One Step, One Day

 

My Big Goals for 2020: Week 01/52

My Big Goals for 2020

In setting these super big goals for the year, I committed to weekly pulse checks to measure my progress. With no quite one week under my belt, here’s where I stand. How are your goals going? What are you doing to stay motivated?

01: Get 6 – 7 Hours of Sleep Each Night

Since I am still on our holiday break from school, this has not been a problem. That said, this week will be my first ‘test’ – new habits are coming!

02: Save Money

One debt has been paid off, allowing me to rollover that cash into a second debt. Fingers are crossed that my HVAC unit continues to hold out – as replacing one debt with a different one is not on my list! When I was running on Thursday morning, it did not sound happy 🙁

03: Learn Calligraphy

I’m setting up my iPad today. I promise. No really. I am.

04: Purge 1000 items {Status: 62/2000}

In putting away Christmas decorations and tidying up after the holidays, I have been purging without abandon. So, I an reporting lots of success in this department this week by donating high school science books, clothes, and holiday decorations.
This week, the following items from my home found new homes:
Clothes (26), Books (8), Decorative Boxes (3), Candles (1), Holiday decorations (3), Beauty supplies (20), and Cleaning supplies (1)

Current Status: 62/1000 items out of my house!

05: Organize the Attic

Slight – very slight – progress in this area this week. I purged our Christmas decorations as they were packed to go back in the attic. Plus, we intentionally placed the holiday decorations together in one spot in the attic. This will give us a place to start when I dive deeply into this project.

06: Read 100 Books, including ALL of the DBC books. {Status: 02/100}

Some fun, nonfiction reading during the holiday break towards my 100 book goal.

(1) Don’t Lie to Me | Willow Rose {Fun Read}
(2) The Last Thing She Ever Did | Gregg Olson {Fun Read}

In Progress
(3) The Sound of Rain | Gregg Olson {Fun Read}
(4) Tiny Habits | Fogg {Personal Growth}
(5) Radical Candor | Scott {Professional Growth}

I am intentionally taking my Personal and Professional growth books slow,y so I can savor, learn, and integrate these reads into my life.

07: Try 52 New Recipes {Status: 01/52}

What do you do when your sister gifts you with three very ripe avocados?

Avocado Pasta. Seriously…this was a winner! Loved it! Tossed with fresh seafood that we had on hand. It was a nice break from our traditional holiday food, hearty, and healthy.

08: Get in Shape

This week, I maintained a 5 day run streak, logging 2 miles each day. I also carefully watched nutrition – cutting back significantly on Diet Coke (Yes, I know how terrible it is) and acknowledging my sugar addiction. See #OneMonthGoals below for details!

09: #OneMonthGoals with Michael Matera

Last year, I joined Michael Matera on his #OneMonthGoals journey. I ran every single day for a month – and it was glorious. This year, I am committed to selecting (and sticking with) one new goal each month, which I will document here.

January 2020: Run daily. 31 day running streak, here I come.
January Day 5 – logging 2 miles each day. Each time I lace up my sneakers, I run a little more and walk a little faster. And, I’ve already earned by January Apple Watch badge. I’m such a sucker for Badges!

10: Write/Send 52 notes/cards {Status: 0/52}

I found my stationary… so, I’ll work on that next week.

11: Redesign my sunroom

This begins with decluttering. See #04.

12: Do things that make me feel alive (One per month) {Status: 01/12}

Saying YES to adventures is something that I want to do more frequently. On Saturday night, we joined dear friends and their daughter – whose husband has just begun the next chapter in his career as a Chef at The Blue Point (Duck, NC). We have heard so many wonderful things about this restaurant, but we had never made time to visit. What a perfect time to go!

The Blue Point did not disappoint! From scrumptious appetizers of Warm Deviled Crab Dip, Hoisin Glazed Baby Back Ribs, and a seasonal charcuterie of duck, salmon, liver, and sweet potato bisuits, to a dinner of Pamlico Sound green tail shrimp ramen bowl, grilled bone-in pork chop over apple-cabbage slaw, and seared Outer Banks sea scallops over madras curry lentils, and wrapping up with Warm Southern Pecan Pie over Bourbon Ice Cream, Double Vanilla Bean Creme Brulee, and White Chocolate Ganashe Cake with Grand Marnier soaked raspberries, the food was decadent.

Without a doubt, we WILL return. Although, I doubt that I will ever see that many dishes cross the table during one meal… that was such a treat.

Secret Goals! 

  • Secret Goal #1: This resumes next week! Stay tuned
  • Secret Goal #2: We’ve started this one… slowly but surely!
  • Secret Goal #3
  • Secret Goal #4

How are your goals going?

Cheers, Holly

Spilled Milk

As a former high school teacher {turned Instructional Technology Facilitator}, I have a confession. Teenagers are my absolutely favorite age of student with which to interact. They want to talk and share their opinions. They yearn for independence yet struggle when life isn’t easy. Their personalities are developing at a rapid speed which is evident in their wit, humor, and interactions of peers. They take risks and appear fearless. They are making memories that last a lifetime. They are making choices that impact the next chapter of their lives. I love it.

Yet. This path can be rocky. As a parent of two teenagers, I must constantly remind myself that there is a learning curve for teenagers. With increased independence comes responsibility, and teenagers will not always make the most sound decisions. Our response, as the adult mentors in their lives, matters.

Which reminds me of a story shared with me by a wise parenting mentor when my girls were toddlers. She reminded me, “Don’t fret the spilled milk. Teach them to carry the container.” She laughed that this would become increasingly important as the girls got older. {The story is here}

In this story, a child – in helping his mother – spills the entire container of milk on the kitchen floor. While the mother could have scolded the child for his carelessness, her approach was different. She used the opportunity to teach the child how to clean up the mess and how to effectively carry the delicate bottle to prevent it from happening again. After all, the milk was already on the floor. She couldn’t return it to the bottle. Yelling and screaming would change that, nor would it prevent it from happening again.

Teachable moment.

Empowering others.

With love and leadership, this mom took a minor disaster and turned it into a teachable moment and empowered her son with additional skills and confidence for future events.

Lessons learned:

  1. The child practiced carrying the container – outside and filled with water, so that a spill did not matter as much – building skills and confidence that he would use the next time he helps her in the kitchen.
  2. The child faced consequences – restorative consequences. In helping her properly clean the kitchen, he not only learned the importance of cleaning up his own messes, but he restored the kitchen to the way that it was before (maybe even cleaner). The consequences aligned with his error.
  3. Love. This parent’s approach fosters a relationship that encourages the son to come to her with problems – guiding him on the proper way to clean up his messes and learn to prevent the same error in the future.

Parenting is a tough gig. Teaching is, too. How can we apply this lesson to our everyday interactions with our students and children?

Teaching example: A student miserably fails a test.

  • Restorative: Brainstorm ways that the student can restore his average by demonstrating mastery of the content.
  • Building skills: Does the student know how to study the content? Does the student have the materials necessary to prepare? Dig deeply into this – as this build skill sets and confidence that extend far beyond your class.

Parenting example: Your child gets a speeding ticket.

  • Restorative: Brainstorm that your child can restore the additional financial responsibility put on the family.
  • Building skills: Is your child giving himself enough time to arrive or cutting it too close, encouraging speeding? Does your child know how to identify places where the speed limit might change? Is your child paying attention while driving? This is a golden opportunity to encourage ownership and responsibility, as managing your driving speed is completely within the driver’s control. Powerful.

I see so many benefits to this approach – whether we are parenting in touch situations or teaching in our classrooms.

  1. Adults are positive, loving resources for help.
  2. Consequences should be restorative and aligned.
  3. Effective change comes from the lesson learned.

Admittedly, this approach is tough – especially in the heat of the moment. However, remember the Story of the Spilled Milk.

Pause.

Be thankful that it happened under your watch, while you still have the opportunity to positively influence the outcome.

 

 

 

Stack of Towels

A stack of towels. Simple.

An item that every single one of us has in our home.

But, this stack of towels is more.

This is last gift that my mother gave to me… six months and one day after her death.

 

How did this happen?

The year before, I had remodeled my bathroom, and I requested new bath linens in a particular color as the perfect Christmas gift. Unbeknownst to me, both my sister and my mother purchased bath linens for me. When my mother learned that my sister had purchased the item, my mother – never one to dull our excitement over wrapping *the perfect gift* –  tucked hers away, never to be mentioned again.

11 months later, in going through things hidden in closets and under beds, my father found this treasure.
Though tears, I opened this gift on Christmas Day.
A gift from an angel in heaven.
A gift so unexpected that it took my breath.

My Mother

My mother was a beautiful soul who loved nothing more than to create surprises. She would pick my girls up from school and surprise them with a quick ice cream celebration. She would show up at my house with fun surprises for my girls that she had picked up in her travels. She would spend hours creating Halloween candies, handmade Easter Eggs, or Holiday floral arrangements and deliver them to all of the ladies in our neighborhood – visiting for hours with each and every one. You can comb through her social media pages, and you will never find a post where she mentions these moments. She loved to make other people smile – and did not want public validation for her beautiful deeds. She cherished the smiles, laughs, notes, and personal visits … and she needed nothing more than her full heart.

I want to live more like my mother.

In my work, with students and adults, what warms my heart and fills my soul? What can I take away from each encounter to personally validate my work and fuel future steps … while intentionally skipping publicity/social media? What can I tuck away in the closet, forgetting completely, so that others can shine in the moment?

In short, what would my Mom do?

 

 

 

 

Physical Therapy: Long Term Gains

During a routine flip turn, she felt it slip out of place – like there was a void in the middle of her knee. After a few laps, she felt it pop back into place – accompanied by significant pain. This time, rest and relaxation, therapeutic swims, ice, and elevation did not help the pain subside. With fear and anxiety, we headed to the orthopedic surgeon, praying that we did not need his full range of services.

Diagnosis

Patellar Subluxation: The official medical term for dislocation of the kneecap (patella). Kneecap instability.

You see, your kneecap (patella) attaches near the bottom of your femur. As you bend and straighten your need, your kneecap moves up and down in a groove at the bottom of the thigh. Several muscles and ligaments hold the kneecap in place, and if these are injured, the kneecap can move out of its groove. This is exactly what happened to my daughter. The weakness of the muscles that hold her patella in place allowed her kneecap to slip to the outside of the knee, stretching the medial-patella-femoral-ligament.

Good news: No surgery!

Tough news: Rest and ice are not enough for a full recovery.

For a month, she invested in intensive physical therapy – that was specific to her injury, scaffolded to her response to therapy, and graduated to measure growth – all geared to increasing the strength of the muscles that stabilize her patella. Within days, there was measurable growth. That small growth encouraged her to diligently complete her home exercises, which fed the growth of her sessions. Slowly, the pain subsided. The weight bearing exercises increased. Range of mobility expanded.

Today, five weeks later, she was released to return to full participation in the pool: kicks, flip turns, dives. But, the physical therapy continues.

So, what is Physical Therapy?

Physical Therapy: Care that helps you function, move, and live better.

In thinking about my new role as an instructional technology facilitator, I have been wondering why people are resistant to try new initiatives, reflect deeply about current practices, and embrace change. And, more importantly, how do we move past this self-imposed barrier? I believe that the answer might be in Physical Therapy!

We often look at Physical Therapy as a regimen that follows a major surgery. But, our experience has been different. In my daughter’s case, physical therapy was a response to develop stability to prevent future injury. My daughter took two hours out of her week to meet with a professional who guided her through intense exercises and who prescribed her with work to do on her own between visits. Let’s use this strategy with instructional growth…

PT appointments = PLC meetings led by educational leaders/coaches, during which we dive deeply into instructional methods, practice, model, plan, and develop.
PT at home = Independently complete or practice tasks started in PLC. Prepare for next meeting by collecting data, penning questions, and reflecting on what is or is not working with your current regimen.
Repeat

While the PT (PLCs) are more frequent in the beginning, you quickly recognize the value of these appointments – in time, productivity, and results. Over time, you may scale back on the scheduled PLCs with experts, however you find yourself creating more organic opportunities for this instructional conversation with other passionate educators. Before long, you recognize that you no longer *need* the coach as a coach, but you long for the coach as a collaborative partner who brings ideas, passion, and energy to a rich discussion.

You are invigorated with lessons who have received an overdue face-lift, developed a relationship with a collaborative partner, and created a sustainable method to revitalizing your educational environment.

You prevented the educational injury commonly referred to as “burn out”.

With this knowledge, who wouldn’t invest in educational PT?